Retorting Faulty Logic

“Can a woman ask a man what he brings to the table?” huh? Let me understand your question, “You want to know if a woman should be concerned with whether or not the man she intends to spend the rest of her life with can protect and provide for her?” Me: “Naw fam, she shouldContinue reading “Retorting Faulty Logic”

Grappling with Love, Part 18

Sebastian’s cellphone alarm sounded. He woke up to find the bed empty. He did hear the shower running in the guest bedroom that they were in. He walked in and used the bathroom, washed his and then slipped into the shower, “Mind if I join you.” Toni welcomed his presence by turning to him, “BuenosContinue reading “Grappling with Love, Part 18”

Gimme That Struggle Love…

A couple of days ago, I wrote a piece that referenced the term struggle love. Struggle love refers to a woman who constantly finds herself in relationships with men who do not have their affairs in order. It pays homage to the Ride or Die Chick. And if you’ve been following my blog long enough,Continue reading “Gimme That Struggle Love…”

Ya In Ya Feelings and It Shows…

I must say that social media brings out a level of toxicity in individuals that you can rarely experience during a face-to-face interaction. For instance, last week, one of my favorite creators posted a video. Basically, it said, “Men be like, ‘what do you bring to the table’?” And she responded, “Sir, you’ve already satContinue reading “Ya In Ya Feelings and It Shows…”

Is Toxic Masculinity Here to Stay?

The question came up on my TikTok, “What is something you’ll get a lot of hate for if you say it out loud?” There are many unpopular statements I can make in regards to this inquiry, however, let’s focus on toxic masculinity for minute. Toxic masculinity is used in academic and media discussions of masculinity to referContinue reading “Is Toxic Masculinity Here to Stay?”

Pretty for a Dark Skin Girl…

As a dark skinned woman, I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard, “You’re pretty for a dark skinned girl.” It’s a phrase that makes me cringe and one I have only responded to with the double blink stare. I was even told by a guy, “You act like you can’t take a compliment.”Continue reading “Pretty for a Dark Skin Girl…”

Grappling with Love, Part 17

The day had finally wound down. Carson decided to stop by his parents’ house before heading home. When he arrived, he was surprised to see so many cars around the house. He knocked, the door opened, his mother reached for him with a hug, “Come in son.” “Is there a party no one told meContinue reading “Grappling with Love, Part 17”

Grappling with Love, Part 16

Toni sat on the edge of the bed. She felt his strong hand caress her back, she turned to him and smiled before standing. He surveyed her as she stood there in nothing. He smiled as she began to locate articles of her clothing. She dressed herself and just when she slipped inside of herContinue reading “Grappling with Love, Part 16”

Unnecessary Behavior

The art of Civility and Constructive Criticism Ladies and gentle fellows, boys and girls and all those in between, I greet you with love and positivity in hopes to bring understanding to a situation that I’ve often spoken and written about, in one form or another, and that is…unnecessary behavior. There was not a clearContinue reading “Unnecessary Behavior”

Grappling with Love, Part 15

Winter had slowly faded and signs of spring were evident. The cardinals sang outside. The squirrels and bunnies played. The fresh vibrant colors of annuals began to spring up in yards around town. The air still had a slight bite in the mornings, but by midday it was warm. Toni had ventured off to seeContinue reading “Grappling with Love, Part 15”